We, Shannon and Kendra Disney, established Front Porch Conversations out of a desire to assist others following the turmoil we experienced in our marriage due to our childhood trauma experiences. We strive to walk you through healing all types of relationships even those involving infidelity and the trauma of betrayal.

Upon discovery of the betrayal in our marriage each of our worlds seemed to fall out from under our feet. There were feelings of shock, terror, and utter aloneness. We each experienced an unimaginable grief over the life we had built together. The unveiling of a secret life seemed to ruin everything we had known. We were both devastated (in different ways) and had zero hope that we could survive this rupture. The dream was over. We had each lost our best friend and nothing felt safe in the world.

I, Kendra, developed complex PTSD. The images and videos playing in my head were debilitating. I felt crazy. I was not myself and I was not OK. My days were spent oscillating between panic attacks, crying spells, and what I referred to as spinning out. I became completely obsessed with trying to find safety in searching for more information of the betrayal as I felt I needed to find the edges of the storm. I no longer knew my husband and there was so much confusion as my long-term source of comfort instantly became the source of my biggest pain and trauma.

Shannon became completely dysregulated. He lived in fear of losing everything he had destroyed. His shame overwhelmed him as he grasped for a hold on to the pieces of his life falling apart. The two lives he had worked so hard to keep separate collided in an instant. He had to face the hard choice of letting go of the only coping mechanism that he had come to depend on throughout his life. His biggest fear of exposure had come to light.

We learned a lot about how our childhood traumas had impacted our marriage and we had to dig deep to heal those parts of ourselves to get through the mess in our marriage today. So much of our pasts had affected us in ways we were unaware of. We had to heal those wounds to move forward.

We quickly began a lifestyle of healing. We tried many modalities of therapy, 12 step programs, group experiences, and intensives. Healing became a necessary full-time job in our lives. Slowly we began to find relief and healing. It took us a year to find a coaching modality that brought peace into our lives again which is where most of our healing began. We started to communicate with a new language and finally found the “secret sauce” to what we need to heal as individuals and as a couple. We bring our experiences of healing and failures into our coaching practice for you to get the same kind of relief and healing.